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The other day, I took my two kids - Georgia, 8, and Theo, 6 - to the beach to meet friends and their children, who ranged in age from four to twelve.
As tends to happen, the girls found the girls and the boys found the boys. The girls claimed a makeshift cabana and disappeared into it for what felt like hours. No tablets, phones or scheduled activity. Just sitting around doing the ancient art of girl talk. On the drive home, Georgia asked, "Mom, can we get some Vaseline?" I told her we already had some at home and asked if her lips were chapped. "No," she said. "Wren told me that if I put Vaseline on my nails every night, they'll grow faster." Then she paused. "You should have seen her nails, Mom."
The case was closed and she was convinced. Not because Wren is a dermatologist or because she'd posted a before-and-after video. But because Wren had great nails and told Georgia her secret for achieving them. We live in a world where thousands of people try to sell us something every day and yet somehow, the oldest recommendation engine in human history still works flawlessly. The thing is, women have always done this. Before the internet followed you around convincing you that you HAD TO BUY THIS, women exchanged remedies over kitchen tables. They shared recipes, beauty tricks, birth stories, grief rituals, cures for fevers, advice for difficult marriages, and warnings about people not to trust. Knowledge traveled through conversations. Communities were built through recommendations. It's easy to think of recommendations as a modern marketing tool, but they're actually something much older. They are a form of care. When a woman recommends something to another woman, she's usually doing more than sharing information. She's sharing experience. She's saying: I've been where you are. This helped me. Maybe it will help you too. And perhaps that's why those recommendations still carry so much weight. There was Georgia, all of eight years old, participating in a tradition that predates every social platform, every beauty brand, every advertising campaign ever created. A circle of girls sitting together and comparing notes on what really works and is worthy of being passed on.
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You Should Have Seen Her Nails!!
|Sara Brooks

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A recommendation from a girl friend bestie is worth its weight in gold!